Notes from Motherhood: The Internet is a Girl’s BFF

Notes from Motherhood is written by Anne, Mummy to Francesca, Molly and Benjamin. Anne is the BornFree Social Networking coordinator for the UK.

When we moved from the Big City to the Smaller One By The Sea 2 years ago I had no qualms at all. It was so comforting to know that we were doing the right thing for our 2 girls and moving them somewhere healthier and safer. However, one thing I did miss was my mummy network. I was used to taking the girls out everyday to playgroups, on play-dates, to the local park etc and we had a familiar routine which made us all happy. Moving to the new place had meant sacrificing all that to start again.

Soon after moving I discovered I was pregnant again and because I suffer from Hyperemesis (a debilitating disease which causes severe and constant sickness during pregnancy) I knew that I had to act fast to establish a support network before the illness took hold.  So I did some research and found a few local groups where I could take the girls.

I love taking my kids to baby and toddler groups. They provide an excellent venue for your children to let loose with other preschoolers and learn important social skills. For me, they can be a place to recharge my batteries when my energy levels and patience are running low or a vent to radiate positive vibes when things are going well. A new mum can compare notes with other first time mums, mums pregnant with number 2 can seek advice and reassurance from mothers with 2 or more on how to cope with a newborn and other kids. I’ve noticed that although dads are very much in the minority at these groups they are always given a warm welcome and in fact can easily find themselves the centre of attention. Until the biscuits are handed out, of course.

After my son was born and my husband went back to work, and my parents had travelled the 1000 mile journey back to their home, reality slapped me hard in the face. How was I going to cope with an 8 week old baby as well as an 18 month old and a 3 year old?. I was scared, I needed friends, I needed support. I was ON MY OWN.

Lucky for me I have my laptop and I soon discovered the world of mum’s networking sites. They were created for people just like me, who maybe can’t get out and about as much as they’d like, but who still need the support of a social network. So I got to work fast; I went to the forums, the review sites, the meet-a–mum pages. And then I stopped panicking…

Here’s a quote from Linda Lowan who writes for

Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend, but the Internet is a BFF (best friend forever) to women navigating motherhood for the first time.

Unlike previous generations – who were often isolated and alone during the first weeks and months of life with a new baby – women today with access to a computer can take advantage of limitless opportunities to connect. You can make new friends, find local playgroups, and get support and advice from the many online communities and social networks designed specifically for mothers.

…I wasn’t alone anymore. I can honestly say that thanks to these websites I have maintained my sanity and I have found some wonderful friends with kids who I meet on a regular basis.

Below is a list, by no means comprehensive and in no particular order, of some of the sites that connect mums around the block and around the world.


1 Response to “Notes from Motherhood: The Internet is a Girl’s BFF”

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